San Diego Hookups

If you're looking to get laid in San Diego, stop what you're doing right away. Being one of the biggest cities in California, having beautiful beaches, and being the best place to live in California, it can be pretty easy to find a hookup and casual sex.

If finding casual sex hookups sounds fun to you, keep reading. In this ultimate guide, we'll discuss the best places to find hookups in the city of San Diego and the top sites for finding casual encounters (sexual or romantic.)

Real World Meet-Ups

If you're visiting San Diego, or are a resident and want to have a night out on the town, there are a lot of fun bars and clubs to meet girls. Don't worry, we won't send you to North Park Fitness or any other gym. While there are beautiful San Diego girls who go to North Park Fitness, it's not an optimal place to find San Diego love!

Check out this short list of fun places to check out in the city!

Madam Bonnies

One of the best bars in San Diego is Madam Bonnies. It's considered one of the best atmosphere-wise and people-wise. It has an elegant, yet dive-bar charm. A great place to find San Diego hookups.

You can find people from all walks of life (military men, business owners, etc.) at this bar. It's the perfect mix of intimate yet lax. Finding a hookup here won't be difficult.

Part-Time Lover

Our next best bar is a quaint, yet amazing, spot to find hookups. Since San Diego is one of the most beautiful cities in the USA, this bar is a perfect place for music lovers. Interesting fact, the bar is connected to a music shop.

The music shop is what makes this place amazing. You can meet people who are interested in the same kind of music as you.

Omnia San Diego Club

This club is cousins to the Omnia dance club in Las Vegas, only it's in downtown San Diego! Finding a San Diego hookup at this club is pretty easy. Locals to the area know that this club can get pretty crazy during the weekends.

Business is booming for this club as its dance floor is always packed. While you can't get laid in this club (It's not one of those kinds of clubs, unfortunately), you can find a partner on the dance floor!

Our second club on this list is a high-end, high-class experience to visit. Those visiting San Diego should definitely check this club out.

The constant change and flow of the club gives it a fun and active atmosphere. Meeting pretty girls who are DTF won't be difficult here, since the high energy of the place lets you let loose, chemistry is more easily exchanged!

Moonshine Flats

Our last bar is another amazing place that locals will say is a great place to find San Diego hookups. With live music filling the bar most of the time and a relaxed atmosphere, meeting people will feel the same way!

The best time to visit this San Diego hookup mecca is undoubtedly after a Padres game. Fans from all over the city come pouring in, especially after a win. Many of these men and women are a little tipsy from drinking during the game and just looking to celebrate a San Diego Padres victory by getting laid! Girls, keep your eyes open as you might even meet a guy like Manny Machado or Francisco Tatis Jr. here!

Hit the night on the town in San Diego with your friends and check out this classic dive-bar experience!

Thad’s Private San Diego Club

This is a legendary spot in San Diego for finding that hot one night stand! This club is like no other. It’s a swingers club, and one of San Diego’s best (or worst!) kept secrets. Each night they have different themes, like “hump day” or “Bi-choice.” 

What makes this San Diego club different from other swinger type clubs is that they allow both single men and single women to join in on the fun! So, if you’re looking to get laid, this fun place is as close to a sure thing in San Diego as you’ll ever find!

Café Sevilla

If you’re looking for the best tapas in town, this is the place! It’s legendary in San Diego for its Spanish food, sangria, and salsa dancing. It’s also a fantastic place for both serious and casual dating. There’s just something sexy about the great mix of music, food and drinks that is sure to make sure your night ends with sex!

Mission Beach

One of the most romantic, sexy spots in San Diego is definitely Mission Beach. There’s a reason why used condoms can often be found on the beach. Seriously people, clean up after yourselves! Let’s keep it classy San Diego!

In any case, watching a sunset on the beach is a must-do activity in San Diego. The golden sunset is often an aphrodisiac, and you may just head right to bed after that. Just make sure you shake the sand off your shoes as you head off to have fun!

Hookup Sites

If meeting up in public isn't your cup of tea, you can check out some of the sites listed below. Finding San Diego hookups on one of these sites is a piece of cake!

1. Tinder

Before you read past this suggestion, listen to what we have to say. Tinder is one of the most widely used dating apps in San Diego. With over 75 million active accounts, finding hot girls in California won't be too difficult.

While this dating app is usually used for finding casual hookups, you can find anything from friendships to relationships to one-night stands. San Diego has a huge amount of people who live here, meaning it won't be difficult finding someone to hook up with.

Tinder is very popular among the younger people of San Diego, considered one of the best places to meet girls around their age!

The Layout

Whether you use the site or the app, Tinder's layout is simple and easy to learn. To register, all you have to provide is your name, birth date, phone number, and email. Once you're signed up, an email will be sent to you, making sure that you're a real person.

Once you've done that, you can set your location. If you live in San Diego, put that. Maybe you'll snatch a hookup in downtown San Diego.

Finding Hookups in San Diego?

Now that you've got the first two steps done, you've got to fill out your bio. Here you can tell the world a little bit about yourself including your age, where you work, and where you go/went to school. Also, you can set an age range for the local girls you want to meet.

You can also put up to ten pictures to showcase who you are. You can also link your Spotify account and give yourself an 'anthem'. This lets you showcase your amazing music taste. Maybe you'll find other San Diego Tinder users who share the same interests as you.

The good news is that many of the San Diego women on Tinder aren’t just looking for sex. A huge percentage of them are looking for long term dating, or even finding a life partner.

Now that you've gotten everything in order, it's time to get to matching. On the main dashboard, you'll find there are tons of girls in San Diego. If you find that special woman, you'll want to like the profile.

To like the profile, you swipe towards the right. To skip, or dislike, swipe left. To super-like, which means you like them more than the others you liked, tap the big blue heart button to do so. If that person stumbles across your profile, they'll see that you super-liked them.

If you want to make sure that your potential San Diego matches aren’t swiping left on you, you’ve got to put some effort into setting up your account. Take the best picture you can. We recommend that you put something really special in the background like the San Diego skyline, the Giant Dipper, or La Jolla Cove.

Dress for success in your pics. Make sure you don’t look like a bum! Put some thought into your ‘fit. If you are a cis or trans-woman, make sure to get that makeup just right. Go for that natural look but be sure to highlight your best features!

For guys, you need just as much work. It’s all about highlighting what makes you special. If you are a big, handsome man, don’t hide it! Embrace it, but do it in a way that makes you look flattering. Camera angles and lighting are huge here. Have a friend take a picture so they can get the right point of view to make you look like a stud, not a dud.

Getting Matches

If you spend time on the app/site, you'll probably match with a few like-minded people in San Diego. Snagging a hookup requires honesty. Let your partner know that you're only looking for a hookup or a one-night stand. Not clarifying this can lead to some pretty messy situations.

Paid Subscriptions

Even though Tinder is free, there are paid options that users can choose from. There are perks that come with these too.

With a paid subscription, you can also change your location. Let's say you live in San Diego, but you want to make a relationship, make friends, or land a hookup with someone from North Park. Simply go in and change your location. You can now talk to girls in North Park!

Once you obtain a girl (heck, or guy) you're into, it's hookup time! From here, you can discuss your fun night ahead.

AFF (or Adult Friend Finder) is the oldest online casual dating site in San Diego and on the web. The main appeal of this dating site is that it caters more to those looking for casual encounters. Being online for over two decades, AFF has been labeled one of the best dating sites. Not to mention, it has a huge user base.

San Diego has millions of local girls and guys who are down for casual dating, and AFF is the best place to do it. The registration process is simple and non-invasive. You can stay as vague as you want, too!

Signing Up

Signing up is easy and only asks you for a few things. Members are asked to provide their name, age, birth date, email, and phone number. The dating site is free, but there are paid accounts too.

Getting Matches

Finding an interested partner in San Diego may sound daunting at first, but AFF makes it easy for you. You can look for other users around your age, check out the personal ads of locals and chat with the ones you're into. If you love someone's profile, you can message them and figure out if they're looking for that too.

AFF has users all over the city, from Chula Vista to Oceanside! You’ll find men and women from all backgrounds: military; cougars; teachers; SDSU and UCSD students; white girls, mexican, black, asian and mixed race girls too. It’s truly a rainbow coalition of sex! You can’t go wrong here.

What Makes AFF Different?

Since AFF is mainly used to find sex in your city, it has certain perks that other hookup sites don't, such as:

• AFF is one of the oldest and most trusted hookup sites to date. It's reliable and has a solid amount of registered users in San Diego, making it easy and fast to find someone.
• The sign-up process is easy to follow. You definitely won't have any trouble picking up San Diego girls and guys on here.
• Inclusive LGBT community. If you're straight, bi, gay, lesbian, or identify under the queer umbrella, there are several options for you.
• You can use the hookup site on either a web browser or the app. It's available to both iPhone and android users.
• They have free plans, as well as paid memberships.
• AFF is open and accepting of all types of people. If you have a specific kink or fetish, you'll be able to find someone in the city of San Diego who shares the same interest.

Plenty of Fish

Plenty of Fish is one of the most popular and long-running San Diego dating sites on the internet. With over 90 million users, it beats a bunch of other hookup platforms in terms of users.

If you want to find casual encounters and San Diego hookups, doing so is easy. Once you register, you can chat, send videos, and find sex with nearby users. Plenty of Fish is for anyone of all sexualities. You can filter out the genders you're attracted to and set age limits.

Single girls in San Diego can rest easy if they use Plenty of Fish. With one of the highest number of members on the dating site, you can find San Diego hookups in a safe and secure way. Chatting is private!

The dating site is free, with paid options also available. Finding friends, relationships, and hookups around your age is easy with PoF.

Getting Started

Much like Tinder and AFF, signing up is easy and free. Members will be asked to provide their name, age, birth date, email, and phone number.

Once you've signed up and are ready to start looking for hookups in your city, you can look for them by city. If you live in San Diego, you can find a bunch of like-minded individuals in your age group in a city that big!

Bumble is another huge app in San Diego. This one is geared towards more serious relationships, but it certainly good for casual dating as well. It’s got some great search and messaging features, so it should be on your list of dating sites to try.

Signing Up

Getting a membership on this site is a fairly straightforward process. We recommend creating a separate email account for your dating site memberships to protect your privacy and cut down on spam.

Hinge is the next San Diego casual dating site we're going to talk about. Even though this site is intended to make long-lasting relationships, you can find sex just as easily.

Signing Up

Signing up for Hinge is easy. All you need to provide is your name, age, birth date, gender, and phone number. Once you've filled out your bio, you can start matching and chatting with San Diego girls in your area.

Make sure to make an impression when you initiate a chat. Girls like someone who is honest, sweet, and witty. All girls are different, though, but this is a pretty common trend appreciated amongst girls.

The appeal of this app is that it's made to be deleted. But we always ask why to delete it if you're having luck getting laid in San Diego!

Ok Cupid

Our next app is another popular site/app to get laid in San Diego. With over 50 million users on the site, you're bound to meet girls in San Diego who are DTF.

Signing Up

If you want to get laid in San Diego, go ahead and make a profile on OK Cupid. Fill out a short bio about yourself. Let the people of San Diego know a little bit about you, like your interests, your job, where you go to school, etc.

Start a conversation by complimenting them, or opening with a witty joke. Landing San Diego hookups are easy on OK Cupid.

The next San Diego dating site is a bit smaller than most. The name of the site is a stark contrast to what actually goes on this site.

Pure is mainly a girl-based website, with about 66% of the members being female. Don't worry, there's still a bunch of single guys looking for a night on the town with you.

Signing Up

Signing up for Pure is similar to AFF and Plenty of Fish. Simply provide your name, age, birth date, gender, email, and phone number. After that, you can write a little bit about yourself in the bio your personal ad shows to everyone of San Diego.

Write a little bit about your hobbies and interests, as well as state your intentions for using the site. You can read other people's bios, too. If you find someone you're interested in, you can send a chat to them!

Be Naughty

This is one website that makes it pretty clear what people in San Diego are after when they join! This is all about letting loose, having fun, and being naughty! It has a decent amount of San Diego singles ready to mingle and have fun, so you’ll definitely want to give this site a try.

Signing Up

The process is simple. Remember that this San Diego singles site isn’t free. You’ll need to pick from one of the economical membership plans. Embrace it: you are making an investment in your sex life!

While Hillcrest is often known as the spot for gay men in San Diego, lesbians can have a great time as well. One of the top ways for women to meet other women here in San Diego is the “Her” dating app. 

This app puts the “L” in LGBT with its great user experience, huge user base, and great chat features. It’s also women-only. Cisgendered men aren’t allowed to make profiles here, so you can play all day without worrying about some straight guy interrupting your fun.

Signing Up

When you sign up, make sure to add a great picture. You only have one chance to make that great first impression, so take a little time to fix your hair, do your makeup and pick a cute outfit.

The gay scene in San Diego is great! Hillcrest has been a hot spot for gay hookups for decades. The Gaslamp, PB, OB and Mission Beach have a great gay scene as well! If you’re gay or bi and looking to hook up with hot San Diego studs, you’ll definitely want to check out Grinder. 

The interface is pretty similar to Tinder. It’s easy to use and is probably the number one place for guys to meet each other in San Diego.

This next dating site is a relatively new and small (but rapidly growing) platform that specializes in finding sex in San Diego. Flirt.com prides itself on being a great matchmaker for San Diego singles.

Users in San Diego find that it's an overall great app to use for a multitude of reasons, and signing up is pretty easy, too. Much like other personal ad-based platforms, all you need to provide is your name, phone number, email address, age, birth date, and gender.

Once you've finished that, you can start chatting with girls that pique your interest. Try to open up with a compliment (maybe about one of her pictures), or open with an open-ended joke or question. Girls like someone who keeps them on the tips of their toes.

Our next platform for finding San Diego hookups is Zoosk. Zoosk is easy to use and the basic version is free. Zoosk is available all around the world and has over 40 million users.

Most people use Zoosk to find hookups, but you can get something more than just sex on Zoosk. Relationships and friendships in your city are a possibility with this app, too!

One Night Friend

If you don't want to go through the questioning process that a lot of other San Diego online dating sites often ask of you, ONF is a good match for you.

Single San Diego residents are more likely to find a hookup, rather than a possible relationship or friendship. The San Diego ONF community is rapidly growing and welcoming more and more users to its site.

Signing Up

Signing up for One Night Friends is relatively easy and non-invasive. ONF is much more anonymous than most San Diego sex sites. Your name and phone number are some of the few things ONF will need from you.

Once you've signed up, add a picture or two of yourself so others can see what you look like. After that, you can start scrolling through the thousands of profiles of people that live in San Diego.

Go get to matching!

Ashley Madison

Our final dating site is Ashley Madison. Spending time at Ashley Madison, you'll probably notice there's something different about this place. Something you probably weren't expecting to show up on this list.

What is Ashley Madison?

Ashley Madison is a site for affairs. There are many reasons why someone would start an affair on this online dating site. And you know what that means? That means that there are lots of people looking for hookups in San Diego.

Even if YOU aren't looking to have an affair, you can still benefit from this San Diego hookup site. Women are more likely to find sugar daddies on this website than on any other site on this list, and that's one of the many reasons this site is a unique experience.

Signing up, you'll be asked if you're married and looking for an affair or if you're single and want to find someone. After that, you'll be asked to provide the basic info about yourself. Once you do that, you can start browsing through all the single (or mostly married) people looking for sex.

Staying Safe

Make sure to tell a trusted friend when you are meeting up with someone for the first time. Try to meet in a public place until you really get to know someone. If you think you see anything illegal or dangerous on any hookup app, be sure to tell the customer service team right away!