Casual Hookups

On the surface, casual hookups sound like nothing but endless fun. Unlimited sex without commitment, all for the fraction of a cost that comes with regular "dating." What's not to love, right? Well, while casual sex can indeed be an exhilerating experience, there are still a few rules to abide by if you want to maximize your satisfaction.

You need to how to be a good fuck buddy. What happens if you or your hookup buddy gets too attached? Are you allowed to booty call other women while you're in a casual relationship? There are 7 unspoken rules of casually hooking up and we've gone into detail on all of them. Here's what you need to know.

What Are Casual Hookups?

First of all, let's define what it means to casually hook up. Hookups involve two (or sometimes more) people meeting up for the sole purpose of getting down to business. All parties meet with the intention of sex and nothing more, and once the deed is done, everyone goes their separate ways. If you have a good time together, you might even do it again.

A casual hookup can take place between people who've only just met or people who've known each other a while. Providing you only connect for the sole purpose of explicit fun, then you can consider your arrangement a casual hookup. And in today's world, casually hooking up is overtaking committed relationships as the preferred relationship type for young people. Or as it's now knowm; hookup culture.

Defining Hookup Culture

Hookup culture is the social encouragement and societal acceptance of mass casual sex. Rather than concern themselves with the hardships that come with a committed relationship, millions of people are turning to casual dating to fulfil their sexual needs. Straight people, gay people, trans people - hookup culture is the continous thread that binds all sexualities together.

People have been hooking up en masse for centuries, but with the advent of casual dating apps, hook up culture has become a worldwide phenomenon. Today's world of instant gratification and hectic schedules have aided things too, with more people choosing easy, carefree sex over romantic attachment.

Types Of Casual Relationship

Not every casual relationship is the same. They come with varying levels of (admittedly-minimal) commitment. Before you dive into the world of hook up culture, it's a good idea to familiarize yourself with some of the relationship types out there. Here are the main three.

One Night Stand

You don't date. You don't hang around. You just meet up, have sex and part ways. That's how one night stands work, anf they're the most popular form of casual relationship around today. In most cases, the two involved parties meet that same night; either in a bar or on a dating app, then go back to one of their places to bump uglies.

These kinds of deals rarely go for anything longer than a single night. Quite often, the people involved don't ever see each other again. You might sext occasionally, but the appeal of 1 night stands is that they're magical, transient moments that only happen once. If you get involved in hook up culture, expect to have a few of these.

Fuck Buddy

What happens when your casual relationship incurs a few more hookups? Then you've got yourself a fuck buddy. Fuck buddies engage in regular, non-commital sex with the primary goal of sexual fulfilment and nothing more. There's no expectation to take anything further. Your fuck buddy only exists between the hours you spend under the sheets.

In most cases, you and your fuck buddy won't date. You won't go on vacation together. You won't share your feelings and stare lovingly into each other's eyes. They're not your friend, they're just the person you sleep with whenever one of your needs pounding. Fuck buddy arrangements offer the positives of a committed relationship without the headaches.

Friends With Benefits

A friend with benefits relationship is a little different to a fuck buddy relationship. The key term is 'friend.' Usually, the person you hookup with will already be someone from your social circle. It could be someone you've known for years. It could be someone you've recently been aquainted with, but friends with benefits (FWBs) have a little more leeway than fuckbuddy deals.

For example, you and your FWB might actually hang out together. You might do it one-on-one or you might see each other as part of larger social groups. You've also got a little more freedom to do things that couples might do, such as watch TV or go to dinner together. However, the main focus of the relationship is unhibited, animalistic sex.

Why Choose Casual Relationships?

Why should you chooose something casual over something serious? Really, it all depends on your personal preferences, but if it's purely sex you want, then casual hook ups are by far the best choice. But that's not the only reason you should sample them. Here are three reasons to get involved in hook up culture ASAP.

Commitment is the worst part of serious relationships. You're expected to always "be there" for the other person, not to mention you'll be in the dog house if you forget their birthday. With casual relationships, these kinds of commitment-centric expectations are entirely mitigated. Your hookup buddy won't care that you didn't get her a Christmas gift.

Low cost

Dating ain't free, but do you know is? Casual sex. Well, maybe not completely free since you'll have to pay for gas to get to her place, but compared to the high costs you'd have to swallow to "date," it's a drop in the ocean. In fact, when it comes to hooking up, there are barely any costs involved whatsoever (except maybe condoms).

Great practice

No one is born good at sex. If you want to become a master seducer, it takes a lot of practice. And what better way to practice than with a casual fuck buddy? You can test your abilities out as much as you want, and it doesn't matter if things go wrong because it's not like you're going to see her very often anyway. Casual fucking lets you hone your sex skills indefinitely.

The Unspoken Rules Of Casual Hookups

1. Read between the lines

Look, no potential hookup partner is going to just come up to you and say "hey, wanna start a casual relationship?" These things have to come about naturally. That's why you have to read between the lines to get what you want. First of all, you should put feelers out there. Which of your friends are single? Are any particularly slutty? Which ones would make a good hookup partner?

Once you do this, zone in and try your luck. Alternatively, women might make their move on you, and this could easily transition into a future casual relationship if you play your cards right. Don't expect to be asked outright if you want to start up a brief love affair. To make it happen, you need to read the subtleties.

2. Be prepared

Hookups can take place at any time of day. You might get a midnight message from a stranger on Tinder. An old flame might ask if you're up for some quick fun in the early hours of the morning. For these reasons, you need to be prepared at all times, and that means maintaining an attractive hookup pad.

If you bring women into an apartment that looks like shit and smells even worse, chances are she's not going to stick around long. Your hookup partners wants a person who's reliable and looks after themselves, not some disorganized kid who leaves his dirty underwear in a pile. Keep your living quarters looking sharp and she'll want to spend more time there.

3. Vanilla sex... with a touch of spice

Sure, hooking up is all about having the wildest sex you can. But like always, there are limits. There's nothing wrong with experimenting a little in the bedroom. Maybe introduce some handcuffs if you're both feeling extra horny. Maybe take your romps into the bath or the shower. You can even have a little dom/sub fun if you're into that thing.

But a casual relationship is not a place to explore your craziest, most taboo desires. Doing so can be incredibly off-putting, not to mention it could make her feel like a guinea pig. The point is, keep the perverted stuff for the person you're going to commit to. Like a delicate dessert, casual sex should be light with a couple of sexy twists.

4. Light and fun

No matter what type of relationship you get yourself into, there will be times when you need to actually converse with your date partner. These conversations won't always be about arranging your next sexual rendezvous either. Sometimes, you're going to actually talk about the issues of the world.

But since your arrangement is casual, this isn't a place to dump your biggest concerns. She doesn't want to hear about your childhood trauma or how your parents' divorce took its toll on you. That's not to say don't talk about your feelings, but your relationship is typified by fun and light play. Don't get too deep.

5. Don't get posessive

Your hookup buddy has a life outside of you. You aren't going to be her biggest concern, and she won't priorotize you over the more important things in her life. It can sometimes feel like you're everything to her, after all, you're the tool that provides her sexual release, but once you start getting possessive, that's when things will start to break down.

Neither of you own the other person. You don't owe each other anything. The moment you begin to feel disheartened that she's living a life that doesn't involve you, it's a good idea to take a step back and reevulate things. A casual rarely involves into anything more, so don't expect to end up as a married couple.

6. Take breaks

"How can I miss you when you won't go away?" If you want to keep your casual relationship white hot, you need to spend time apart occasionally. If you see each other 5 nights a week, you're going to enter committed relationship territory and that'll screw with your heads. As an average, one meeting per week is more than adequate.

And during the times you're apart, you can also expand your sexual reach too. The main benefit of a casual relationship is that you're free to date other women, so make the most of the freedom while you can. Of course, you might not want to do that, and that's fine. Casual hook ups allow you to live your life however you want.

7. Keep emotions in check

Physical intimacy naturally creates emotional connections. When you expose yourself so primally to another person, it evokes a biological reaction that bonds you and your sex buddy on a deeper level than simple lust. People like to think they have complete control over their emotional responses, but the truth is that you don't. No one does.

It's very common, then, for people to fall in love with their hookup buddy. It happens every day of the week. However, the bad news is that if you begin your relationship as fuck buddies, chances are it'll stay that way for life. When you feel yourself getting attached, you're 99% likely to get hurt, so you should consider taking a step back to feel safe.

Are Casual Encounters Good For You?

There's been a lot of talk recently about the pros and cons of hook up culture. But really, hook up culture isn't anything new. We've been hooking up with each other for literally centuries. The only thing that's changed is the way we meet our potential fuckfriends. We used to do it in bars and clubs, now we message users online. That's the only difference.

Put simply, casual fucking is very good for the mind, body and soul. Not only is it great physical exercise, but regular intimacy with others helps release endorphins and give you dopamine hits - both of which invigorate the body's pleasure system.

Where Do You Find Casual Sex?

The best seducers always keep one thing in mind: you can find sex anywhere. Bars, clubs, gyms, social events, yoga classes, knitting clubs, even commuting to work. Every social interaction is a chance to meet new people. However, one method stands out above all others in today's culture: dating apps.

The Best Hookup Apps To Get Laid

Not all dating apps are good. Many are terrible. However, the best dating apps are the lesser known ones. Everyone knows about apps like Tinder and Match, but the real gold is hiding in the Internet's dark corners. That's why we've only selected a choice few apps that actually deliver on their promises.

Feeld is a casual dating app that encourages casual sex, polyamory, kink, swinging, and other alternative sexual preferences. It's more than just a place to find vanilla one night stands. Feeld is all about helping people explore their sexual boundaries with safe, consenting partners. If you're sex positive, you'll be welcome on Feeld.

This dating platform originally began as a place to help men and women find threesomes. However, it's since evolved its brand identity and it now caters to all sorts of kinks and fetishes. It's not completely free to use, but the premium membership is a small price pay to help you find that perfect person to hook up with.

Mingle2 is a completely free online dating app that boasts an impressive 5 million strong user base. That's an impressive number by any standards, and even better is that Mingle2 is only available in the United States. It uses both a grid-style and swipe system to match people in the same way OKCupid does, so you can utilize your preferred approach.

What makes Mingle2 one of the best hookup apps around today is its versatility. As well as being a place to find no strings attached sex, you'll find plenty of other users looking for something more substantial. So, whether it's a casual FWB situation or something that lasts a little longer, Mingle2 is an excellent place to start. Check out the free version ASAP.

Alt.com is the hookup app to check out if you're into the kinky stuff. BDSM lovers, fetishists, swingers, cuckolds, you name it. If you get sexual satisfaction from non-vanila sex acts, Alt.com is where you'll feel at home. And best of all, there's a free version to check out so you don't have to worry about your finances.

While it functions like a classic hookup app, Alt.com uses a lot of social media elements to help make it stand out from the crowd. Profiles pages are more than just a wall of personal details. They include blogs, status updates, picture updates and more. The app also has chat rooms and forums to connect with people in a more contextual environment.

Queep isn't actually a hookup app. It's a 'social network for mobiles,' and like all social networks, people mostly use it to find sex. It's basically a massive collection of chat rooms all under one banner, and these chat rooms cater to every sex act, location and sexual preference under the sun.

Queep claims to have a staggering 35 million strong user base which, if true, would make it one of the most popular networking apps of all time. The app definitely boasts constant activity as it's very rare you'll find a room that doesn't have at least 50 members in. To find easy chat partners in your area, get the free version of Queep for Android or iOS today.

Coffee Meets Bagel

Coffee Meets Bagel has been a powerhouse in the online dating niche for a while now. Even though it's something of a mainstream dating app, we can't deny its effectiveness in forging casual relationships. Coffee Meets Bagel is one of the few (or perhaps even the only) dating app that promotes quality over quantity.

Every day at noon, you'll be given two potential matches. No endless swiping required. You're then free to browse the other person's profile pictures and bio, and if you like what you see, you can get chatting. Coffee Meets Bagel puts its users through a vigorous personality quiz so it can give you the best possible matches every day.

Clover is a "singles app" that functions is an all-round entertainment hub. As well as having dating features, it's also got a bunch of social functions to help get yourself out there. Live streaming capabilities, mini games, "streamer battles," blog posts and more. It's a great app to get social and meet your next hookup partner.

Of course, plenty of people use Clover to find no strings attached sex. Any app that promotes interactivity like this is sure to attract the promiscuous, thrill-seeking types, and since you can set your parameters to only see activity from people nearby, it's super easy to find people who are on the same page as you.

Facebook Dating

Facebook Dating is a completely free dating app that uses your Facebook information to build your profile and match with like-minded people. And unlike other dating apps, Facebook Dating can actually you laid with people you know. Not only will it connect you with strangers, but it'll also match you with people in your social sphere.

Just log in to Facebook Dating with your Facebook details and you'll be shown all of the potential matches from your friends list and friends of friends. So, if you've ever fancied your chances of slamming that slutty chick from work, Facebook Dating will let you know if she's DTF without you having to ask any awkward questions in person.

If you're looking for a causal hookup with a little romance, you might some Passion.com in your life. This hookup site encourages passion and intimacy as part of your brief encounters, and amazinly, users have flocked to this site in their millions since it's incarnation in 2015. Apparently, a lot of people want a little more from their casual sex.

A casual hookup doesn't just have to be a quick pump and dump in the back of your car. There's nothing stopping you adding a little sensuality to the mix. Steamy showers, whipped cream, intense kissing, maybe sweet love making down by the fire. As far as unique hookup apps go, Passion.com is one of the best.

Pickable is one of the more unique hookup apps on the scene. It puts the power in the woman's hands as it allows them to feel comfortable and remain anonymous throughout the entire online dating process. Men just need to sign up, create their profiles and let the women do the hard work. It's an interesting little gimmick and works really well.

As a man, you don't have to swipe or scroll through profiles at all. It doesn't have a swipe or a search feature or anything like that. Women can window shop through guys, and if they like someone's profile, they can decide if they want to talk to them or not. Pickable reports massively high success rates, so while the gimmick is unusual, it gets big results.

As the name suggests, BeNaughty is a place to get wild. This is a pure hookup site that puts the focus solely on casual engagements, 1 night stands and no strings attached sex. As of 2022, over a half of the apps 5 million plus users have reported finding success through here, and we're betting these users aren't talking about long term relationships.

BeNaughty's hallways are a hive of activity. The mods are quick to stamp out fakes and dead profiles, so you can rest assured that everyone (well, most people) you talk to are completely genuine. Using BeNaughty's many interactive features, it's almost impossible to NOT find a hookup partner through here.

Follow The Rules And Hookup Tonight

Our guide to casual hook ups will help you navigate today's hook up culture with ease. With a little bit knowledge, you can get out there and start making new friends (with benefits) in a matter of minutes. It only takes a moment to learn these new skills, and once you do, you'll feel much more confident getting out there and creating the sex life you crave.