Here's How to Hook Up with a Girl at a Bar: Crash Course
If you have a hard time picking up women and wonder how other guys manage to do it so well, then keep reading. In this article, we'll break down how to heighten your chances of initiating a conversation and securing a bar hookup. Don't worry, you won't have to sign up for any dating apps!
We'll also discuss ways you can make yourself feel confident in your own skin. Because as most men, you have to be confident in yourself and women will think the same thing.
Step 1: Physical Appearance
The first step in getting laid doesn't even involve any bars. It starts at home. Most people know not to judge a book by its cover, but in the fast-paced world of finding bar hookups, your appearance is key.
In this section, we'll share a few tips to help make you stand out in the crowd and be desirable. It's important to note that you may not be attractive to every woman you come across, and you can't just win them over with a magic word.
Keep in Mind
Women are complex thinking and intellectual beings just like you, so make sure you remember to be respectful and courteous to women who turn you down. By doing so, you let every other woman know you're a respectable gentleman.Wardrobe
If you want to create lax and fun energy about you, it starts with your wardrobe. You don't have to break the bank to look good, just enough to make a solid impression.
Spend time getting to know your style. Maybe step out of your comfort zone and wear something you probably wouldn't wear normally. Don't try to dress like somebody you're not, as women can see right through it.
Once you've decided on your vibe, the next tip to attract women is personal hygiene.
Now that you've got your wardrobe figured out, it's time to talk about your hygiene. Girls like a man who doesn't smell like food all the time.
Keeping a clean head of hair can also boost your street cred with the ladies. Your hair is one of the first things girls will notice about you.
Taking care of your body is not only important for being the hottest guy in the room, but it also plays a part in your sexual health. Keeping yourself clean can lessen the chances of giving a girl an STD or any type of infection.
Step 2: Pick Your Bar
The next step is to figure out which bar you'd like to pick up women at. This is crucial for deciding what kind of girl you'd like to hook up with.
That being said, you can find any type of girl at any type of bar, but you're more likely to find similar-minded girls at their respective bars.
Our first type of bar is a sports bar or a neighborhood bar as they're also known. If you want to meet girls who are into sports as much as you, you'll have better luck finding them here.
Sports bars are much laxer than a lot of the other bars out there. You're encouraged to root for your favorite team and make a new friend or two.
This type of bar is usually best used to have a fun weekend night out with your best friend, rather than snagging hookups. But, you can still find hookups, you just may have to socialize with the girl you're into's friends too.
If you want to impress her, you can always buy her friends a round of shots, and maybe an old-fashioned for her, so she knows you're here to talk to her and not her friends.
Another type of bar you can find a one-night stand is a dive bar, also known as a corner pub. Dive bars are usually your more shady and seedy places. They usually sell cheap alcohol and you can play pool to darts.
You're more likely to find girls who are wanting to have sex or are interested in you at a dive bar. Since dive bars also have a chill vibe to them, you don't necessarily have to dress up for the moment, but it does help with confidence and first impressions.
Our last type of bar is the city bars (AKA popular pubs) that populate the closest downtown city to you. These include chain bars and local pubs. They usually serve food and an array of different alcoholic drinks such as draft beers, mixed cocktails, and IPAs.
These are the types of places that are always loud and crowded on the weekends. They're great places to hang out with a couple of friends and chat with the girls that pique your interest. There are lots of girls looking for casual sex out there, and going to the most popular pubs in the city will help increase your chances for a hook up.
The point of this article is to help you get laid, and going to city pubs is probably your best bet for doing that.
Step 3: Your Wingmen
Our third step requires you to get some of your closest friends together and strategize. Getting your wingmen together can also boost your confidence and sex appeal for some girls. The hope is your friends will hype you up to interested girls and help you snag a hookup.
Who You Should Bring
When it comes to deciding who you want to hit the night on the town with, you should think about who you are closest to. A lot of guys usually bring their best friends or someone who is just as close to go to bars with.
What Does a Wingman Do?
Your wingman should know a lot about you like the type of girl you usually fall for, your hobbies and interests, and is down for people watching (so they can help you scout out women.)
Step 4: Time to Go to Bars
Now that you've got your wingman, it's time to have a night out on the town. It may be best to go with a good amount of friends (they don't all need to be wingmen, but guys that you wouldn't mind going to the bar with.) Bringing a lot of friends can create fun energy that any person would want to be a part of.
Which bar you go to is completely up to you, but you follow these steps below to help hook a girl into your charm.
Catch Her Eye
What you'll want to do first is to make eye contact. This step doesn't involve any talking and can be done in a matter of seconds. If you see a girl you're interested in, make sure she sees you occasionally looking at her.
Make sure to seem confident in yourself. The girl will get a small idea of who you are and how you hold yourself. If you try to act like someone you're not, she'll be able to tell.
If you can make eye contact, try to linger your stare for a few extra seconds or walk around to a new spot and see if her gaze follows you. If she does, read onto the next step to take the night further.
Buy Her a Few Drinks
Once you've been batting your eyes back and forth to each other, it's time to buy her a drink. It's not rocket science.
If she accepts your drink, you can usually expect her to come up to you to thank you for the drink. Not every woman is going to accept a drink from a random guy, and they'd be right to be cautious.
That's why it's up to you to make her feel comfortable with you. You can do so by following the final step.
Start Up a Conversation
If you've decided you want to start a conversation, make sure you follow some of the tips we have listed below for having a good conversation.
- Try not to discuss controversial subjects. This could be several different things like religion and politics. As a guy, it's hard to understand a woman's perspective when it comes to things like this as you've never had to walk a mile in her shoes, so keep it respectful and surface-level. If you're only looking for a hookup, you won't have to go any further than surface level!
- Ask her about herself. Even though you should stay surface-level when it comes to things like politics and religion, you can get a pretty good idea about the woman you're courting by asking about her favorite things.
- Discuss your careers. If you're a career man, you could ask her about her career and discuss them over a few drinks. You never know where that conversation could lead to!
- Talk about your travels around the world. If you're a traveler, talk about some of the cool places you've been to over a drink or two. Bar hookups start with similar interests. If you've both been to a cool place, you can bond over the experiences.
- Ask how long they've been coming to the bar. If you want to snag some flirt points with your bar hookup, ask them why you haven't seen them around. Maybe add in that you would have definitely noticed her if she's been there before.
Step 5: Close in on the Hookup
Once you intrigue the woman you're talking to, now you need to see if a one-night stand is something she'd be down for too. If she's interested, you may notice her body language is a little more open. Keep the following options in your mind if you want to spend some alone time with her!
Play Pool (or Arcade Games)
Most bars you go to will have billiard tables and might have classic arcade games and dart boards. We know sex is probably the only thing on both of your minds, but to make the night more memorable, hook her into a game or two.
Pool is a great game to play if you want to keep talking to her, while games like pinball and darts are great games to play if you two have a more competitive side. This could heighten the sexual tension, as playful banter and competition can bring out flirting.
Just make sure to buy her a drink if she beats you at your own game.
Ask Her if She Wants to Go Home with You
Now that you two are comfortable with each other, ask to exchange numbers with her. If she agrees, this is typically a good indicator that she may want to hook up.
The next thing to do is to ask her if she'd be interested in leaving the bar and going home with you. It's best not to ask this too early. You want to establish a connection with the person you're planning on hooking up with.
Secure the Bar Hookup
Now that she's agreed to leave the bar and go home with you, you've got to make sure you let the friends you went to the bar with know that you'll be needing to go home alone. Hopefully, this won't be a problem if one of your friends drove you all there. You can easily get an Uber for the two of you, or vice versa if your friends rode with you.
Step 6: Staying Safe
Our last step is to give you some tips on how to stay safe out there. No matter how much you act like a bad boy, you can still land in some pretty gnarly situations if you're not careful. Read through our list of safety tips to keep your body and mind safe.
Our first safety concern is getting consent. Consent is what makes sex fun and exciting. You can only get consent by expressly saying so. Just because her body language may tell you one thing, if her mind isn't into it, then it's not consensual.
We must also discuss how if a girl is too drunk to be aware, SHE CAN NOT CONSENT. If she's slurring her words, having a hard time talking/walking, or has had too much to drink, getting laid is no longer an option.
Now that you're back home with an attractive girl, it's important you have proper protection. Condoms helped protect against pregnancy and can lessen the chances of catching an STD or STI.
The pull-out method isn't a responsible option as it's less effective and can lead to unwanted pregnancies. Don't wait until the last minute to grab protection. Getting laid is supposed to be stress-free, so be smart, and buy some ahead of time!
Don't Drive Intoxicated
This one is imperative and doesn't require much more to be said about it. If you're drunk and don't have a person who is the DD, then try to take an Uber or Lyft home. If you don't even make it home because you crashed, then getting laid will be your last concern.
In conclusion, getting laid can be fun and exciting, and easy if you keep this article on the back burner. Make sure you stay safe and be respectful to those you have small talk with. You never know who you can pique the interest of!